Dana lives in Seattle, and Tracie lives in Germany. We are businesswomen, writers and humorists. We write about life, dating, and today's modern women.
Jessie’s Girl is most likely living in senior housing, however, last night, she was dancin’ at the Woodland Park Zoo. My tribe converged on the scene as Rick Springfield, now 67 years young, belted his 1981 hit. How can I find a woman like that???
The last time I saw Pat Benetar was in 1982. Benetar did not disappoint as she continued to hit us with her best shot and moved the crowd, proving we indeed live for love. Her raspy voice on hits such as Hell is for Children and Love is a Battlefield left us wanting more.
Come on Menopausebarbees everywhere admit it- We Live for Love!
There was a fine group of us who had a state of emergency in Cologne, Germany a few weeks ago.
At the time, I never thought I would in some bizarre way compare it to the state of emergency in Charlottesville, Virginia day before yesterday.
The white horse in the room in Cologne was that this state of emergency was a Celebration of Life of Brian Keith Barnes, father, musician and suddenly gone way too soon.
Oh yes, and as in Virginia, there was blood and soil and in Cologne it was the blood, sweat, and toil of searching the soil of the city streets that Onita Boone labored as she scoured the town and social media looking for the barbecue spareribs that only she knows how to prepare to succulently to slide off the bone. And the elbow grease provided by all the cooks: Claudine, Nina, Tutu, Boysie and please forgive me whomever I am accidentally forgetting here, for this amazing meal–we’re in Germany here folks, so please, tip your hats to the wonderful food: collard greens, 2 kinds if I recall correctly, corn bread, fried chicken, ribs, potato salad, tomatoes and mozzarella, Frikadellen, collard greens, potato salad, tomatoes and tortellini salads, mozzarella, mac and cheese, mac and cheese!!! And desserts! Endless homemade desserts!
As my girlfriend, Deborah Woodson said: “It feels like Sunday.” And she was oh so right!
And then of course, instead of cars driving into peaceful demonstrators with the intention of killing them, cars for Brian’ s celebration parked in the spots designated for their parking purposes. The venue was held at the Ebony Premium Club & Sports Bar Köln. Big Mike, the proprietor, allowed us to use his premises for a fractional cost. Here’s to you, Big Mike.
My book, Incompatible with Nature–a Mother’s Story is in the front window of my car. I parked, stepped outside and several people, who were joining the celebration asked me what the book is about. After telling them my message, we all hugged and I felt like I too was bringing something to this bounteous table, aside from my appetite and the looking forward to hugging good friends and remembering another. We all need an uplifting message today, one message, that will outlast hatred and bigotry and meanness and spitefulness…because it is a love story. And love will always trump hate. ALWAYS.
Aah and the torches. They burned. They burned our very souls as they were the voices and the instruments of the fellow musicians who wanted to make sure that Brian was lifted musically into the Heavens.
And it was a beautiful thing.
Heather and Brian, I like to think that we’re doing the best we can. But I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: Sometimes, I think God is laughing at us or crying for us.
Blood, soil, white horses, messages and collard greens in Germany.
Come what may, we wish you peace.
Unrest… I couldn’t sleep last night. When I awoke and turned on the morning news, I was immediately inundated with the reality of our unrest as a nation.
As I watched a recap of the violence that occurred this past weekend, I immediately thought of a favorite quote, “Watch out when you follow the masses, as the M is often silent.”
I needed to put a face, name and story on the ass that plowed his Dodge Challenger at a high rate of speed into the masses, killing a 32 year old woman and injuring at least 19 others. His name is James Alex Fields, Jr. He is a twenty year old, who friends recall on a school trip to Germany revered Adolf Hitler and proclaimed, ‘This is where the magic happened.’
As James Alex Fields, Jr. enters the courtroom this morning… I pray that in his unrest, as we put a face to such evil, we res0lve, this is NO PLACE FOR HATE.
Heather Heyer, the victim of his deadly plow very last Facebook post read “If you’re not outraged, you’re not paying attention,”
I’m outraged Heather… RIP
One of the benefits of social media is having a platform to reach the masses. It is said to watch when you follow the masses, as sometimes, the M is silent.
But today’s post is indeed for the Masses, particularly those, who like me, like to watch the a**’s!
Giddy up! See ya Saturday
The aim of 7th WCPCCS held this year in Barcelona was to bring together all professionals and caretakers involved in the care of children’s heart disease and congenital heart disease of all ages, from the fetus to the aged.
This Organization had heart and soul! What an amazing group of people! Advocates in part from Indonesia, USA, Switzerland, Bulgaria, Spain, Mexico, Malaysia, Lebanon, Pakistan, South Africa, Uganda, Argentina, Sweden, the Netherlands, Italy, India, the Philippines, Israel, New Zealand, the United Kingdom, Japan, Turkey, Jamaica, Columbia and Canada were all represented. All coming together to fight CHD. And to form a new global organization to make sure every heart child lives a long and healthy life–no matter where they are born.
I heard from the young man from India who has a CHD and he shared that in his country, famous for its prearranged marriages, that if one or the other to be intended has a CHD, this information is not released by the family.
In Malaysia, generally, the topic is simply not discussed. Grace, a young woman from that country and also a CHD survivor, knew of no one else in her country with this disease. In Malaysia, CHD has also been the major cause of mortality for women and men since early 1970’s. In one study, about half of the respondents studied in Kelantan had low education and income levels, had average knowledge, attitude and practice on CHD.
Indonesia has a very small heart community. The young man representing his people is the father of a CHD child. If his baby survived the surgery, he made a promise to work in his community to support other families with CHDs and since 2011 has helped over 1000 families. He had us all laughing when he said that the people prefer to believe in magic as a healer, because they believe it helps and doesn’t cost as much as surgery.
And then of course, I had the great fortune of meeting these two Mama Bears pictured here with me, Hannah and Monique. They nicknamed me the Book Lady as I was the only person they’d met who has written a book about my and my son’s journey with CHD.
Both of these brave women’s sons were born with a heart defect. Monique is from Cape Town, S.A. and vowed that once her son survived surgery that she would donate her time helping others. Not only does this single mother of three raise her babies alone, she offers up her lunch hour to go to the Christiaan Barnard Memorial Hospital to console families in need. She has established the Heart of Hope Support Group. It is her dream to establish a Heart of Hope House for those needing housing during a loved one’s hospital stay. And we’re accompanied by Hannah from the Philippines. Hannah is Co-Founder and Director at Let it ECHO. When Hannah’s child was born with a CHD, she had no money to pay for an operation and care so she raised money on line and her non profit has helped hundreds of other families pay for the costs of their heart surgeries and care since then. These are warrior heart mamas! I was in mighty fine company. We come from different corners of the world, but forged a friendship that thanks in part to social media, I am sure, we will treasure forever.
These women reinforced in me once, no twice again, that there is no greater love than a mother’s love.
Monique and Hannah, look up–He just did it again. Love you amazing, selfless women!
With all this online dating, I think there needs to be a DNA test included!
Kyra and Kevin – makin’ Bacon and didn’t even know!
Germany has Carnival and Seattle has Seafair!
Some of my favorite memories
As my sister and co-blogger has shared some of the celebratory traditions of Germany, today I bring you to my side of the “pond.”