... the tales of two sisters

Dana lives in Seattle, and Tracie lives in Germany. We are businesswomen, writers and humorists. We write about life, dating, and today's modern women.

Looking Back******Rückblick

Henry David Thoreau said, “Never look back unless you are planning to go that way.”

I think he’s right, but as with most things in life, there are exceptions for every rule.

Waiting at a stoplight yesterday, I just happened to glance into my rearview mirror and saw the Hahnentor (Hahnen Gate) which was built in the beginning of the 13th century here in Cologne. And I thought, yes, Thoreau was correct but at that moment, I felt like this was one of those exceptions. My thoughts were that we shouldn’t look back unless what we see takes our breath away, leaves us in awe of the achievement, and stirs within us the desire to leave our own mark on the world. Especially today, living with character and a fundamental conviction for good; leveling up rather than dumbing down and being grounded in principles and purposes that are timeless (you know what they are) will let us all construct a story that lasts an eternity.

There can be a positive power in retrospection.
Peaceful weekend everybody.


Henry David Thoreau sagte: “Schauen Sie nie zurück, es sei denn, Sie haben vor, diesen Weg zu gehen.

Ich glaube, er hat Recht, aber wie bei den meisten Dingen im Leben gibt es Ausnahmen für jede Regel.

Als ich gestern an einer Ampel wartete, blickte ich zufällig in meinen Rückspiegel und sah das Hahnentor, das zu Beginn des 13. Jahrhunderts hier in Köln gebaut wurde. Und ich dachte, ja, Thoreau hatte Recht, aber in diesem Moment hatte ich das Gefühl, dies sei eine dieser Ausnahmen. Meine Gedanken waren, dass wir nicht zurückblicken sollten, es sei denn, das, was wir sehen, raubt uns den Atem, lässt uns in Ehrfurcht vor dem Erreichten zurück und weckt in uns den Wunsch, der Welt unseren eigenen Stempel aufzudrücken. Gerade heute, wenn wir mit Charakter und einer Grundüberzeugung für das Gute leben, wenn wir uns aufrichten, statt zu verblöden und uns auf zeitlose Prinzipien und Ziele zu gründen (du weißt, was sie sind), werden wir alle eine Geschichte konstruieren können, die eine Ewigkeit andauert.

Im Rückblick kann es eine positive Kraft geben.
Ein friedliches Wochenende für alle.

No Place I’d Rather Be! Happy Birthday Patti Savoy

If you see one of us, you will see the other…
We are truly sisters separated at birth
The memories of our fun are too vast for one post
She is my every day – every season girl.
Covid-19 couldn’t keep us apart, so we quarantined together
We have travelled the world from Sun Valley to Switzerland
and Nashville to New York and just about every place in between
We spend all holidays together
We have weathered every storm imaginable and together, we have come out
wiser, healthier, and happier
It’s a rare friend who has your back unconditionally
that friend who wants for you what you want for yourself
that friend that doesn’t judge, but lifts you up when you’ve erred
that friend that lends an ear when you don’t even realize you need one
that friend that shows compassion and generosity, and humor, and humbleness
I know how blessed I am to know Patti is that friend
Even when she serves me cake she made with cream CHEESE knowing that I hate CHEESE!
When I think of our love, laughter, and bond, I’m reminded of the song
When I’m with you- there’s no place I’d rather be
Happy Birthday my girl, my sister, Patti Savoy!
I Love you and am grateful for you being born everyday in every way- xoxo

Traveling in the Pandemic… Our New Normal

I recently returned home to Seattle from my second home Nashville.

Traveling during the Pandemic is challenging.

Mask-Check, Hand sanitizer-check, gloves-check, sanitary wipes- check, No food service- check, Limited beverage service-check, No adjacent passenger seated near you-check

So, after my four and one half hour flight to Nashville from Seattle, I arrived feeling suffocated, sticky, hungry, dry mouthed and sober!

It’s the new normal, so we had to find ways to entertain ourselves. We were very cautious to stay away from our beloved live music on Broadway.  The spike of Covid-19 positive cases has spiked in Tennessee due to old habits dying hard.

So, we window shopped the  historic town of Franklin and cooled off with a Daiquiri Ice.

The weather in Nashville, especially in the summer is unpredictable.  Such was the case when my fiancé and I went boating on Center Hill Lake only to watch a storm absorb our sunshine in a matter of seconds.  We were literally visualizing Gilligan’s Island- the Minnow would be lost!  After 30 minutes of extreme duress, we arrived safely back at the dock.


Last May, we were scheduled to join our friend, Leslie Chihuly for her birthday celebration at the Chihuly exhibit opening at The Cheekwood Botanical Gardens.

This exhibit is a spectacular tribute to Leslie’s husband, Dale Chihuly and his masterful creativity.  The exhibit celebrates the 10th Anniversary of Chihuly’s 2010 blockbuster success as well as Cheekwood’s 60th anniversary as a public institution.  This is a must visit for anyone in the Nashville area.

Chihuly at Cheekwood

We walked trails, rode bikes, binged Netflix, played with the cats, played music, cooked at home, read, and greeted dear friends with elbow bumps and masks.


And this is our New Normal…

It’s summer… If you are traveling, stay safe and enjoy!

We are in this together.


Happy Birthday Jacob Collier!

He is being hailed as one of the most outstanding musicians of the moment.

He’s a prodigy of menopausebarbee uncle music maestro and artist ambassador to the Montreux Jazz Festival, Quincy Jones, who has said of this young man, “I have never in my life seen a talent like this…Beyond category, his talent is just frightening.”  And that coming from the master. This young man really is, like, not of this planet, talented.

He headlined a sold-out concert at the Quincy Jones Presents Evening at the Montreux Jazz Club at the Jazz Festival this year and the following evening performed at the Quincy Jones Presents a 50th Anniversary Celebration in the Stravinsky Auditorium alongside the Pepe Lienhard Big Band, Grammy Award winner Patti Austin (Met on a Monday, Married the Next Sunday and Stayed Together Fifty Years: Ms. Patti Austin in the Menopausebarbee Monday Spotlight December 15, 2014), Jon Batiste, Rashida Jones, (Menopausebarbee Monday Spotlight on Rashida Jones July 18, 2016) Sunny Levine, Alfredo Rodriguez, (Menopausebarbee post: Alfredo Rodriguez Killin’ It at the 2016 Montreux Jazz Festival on July 14, 2016) and the incomparable Al Jarreau.

So, what’s another word for amazing? Just to say amazing would really be taking the easy way out when describing the talents of this young man. Phenomenal, extraordinary, sensational, mind-boggling, are all good starts.

And he’s a gentle soul.
I had the opportunity to congratulate him after one of his performances at the Festival. I was eager to do so, just as I was last year. It just feels good to tip your hat to someone who deserves it!

“I remember you from last year,” he said.
“I remember you too,” I said jokingly. He laughed and said, “It’s good to see you again.” I thanked him and went on to tell him how mind-blowing he is to which he profusely thanked me.
“Jacob,” I said, “just how many instruments do you play?” I asked him.
(I have to add here that he also sings–invoking multiple vocal harmonies–baritone, bass, tenor, treble and soprano, as well.)
He looked at me. “I don’t know,” he said.
Imagine that.

At the risk of sounding totally uninformed, I nonetheless had to ask what the name of one of the instruments he played that evening was. Turns out it’s a Melodica.

He has mastered a myriad of instruments, among them drums, acoustic and electric bass, piano, percussion, synthesizers…Really, he plays darn near everything except the kitchen sink. And that may not be too far off.

And one more thing: he is only 21 years old.

Because this virtuoso multi-instrumentalist wunderkind is brilliant, bringing good and a reason to smile into this world and is just a nice young man, Jacob Collier is fiercely shining in the Menopausebrbee Monday Spotlight. Youtube him and do check out his album, ‘In My Room’.

He is in a word, amazing, phenomenal, extraordinary, sensational, mind-boggling…



Something for Your Toolbox – Monday Motivation

Here’s to a good start in the week, everybody!
Auf einen guten Start in die Woche, Leute!

Our Marching Orders


“Though I am gone, I urge you to answer the highest calling of your heart and stand up for what you truly believe.

Ordinary people with extraordinary vision can redeem the soul of America by getting in what I call good trouble, necessary trouble. Voting and participating in the democratic process are key. The vote is the most powerful nonviolent change agent you have in a democratic society. You must use it because it is not guaranteed. You can lose it.” 

–John Lewis

#goodtrouble #wemustkeepmoving

Hope Spring Eternal

I woke up this morning feeling grateful.

First and foremost for family, which includes my baby sister, co-blogger, and partner in crime, Dana, who makes me laugh until I cry. Laughter is a wonderful thing. I am grateful she can’t help herself.

For health. My son’s health, mine, and that of my family and friends. How I pray for those that have been brought to their knees by the scourge of Covid-19. I pray for them and that a cure is found every single day–sometimes out loud. When I talk to myself out loud, I chuckle, thinking about Mama. “It’s okay,” she says, “as long as you don’t answer yourself.” That’s hilarious, but I think she’s serious. I’m grateful for her.

And I’m really grateful this morning for having affected so many people with my book. I never in a hundred years would ever have anticipated the response that I would receive. It moves me down to my very soul when a mother reaches out and says that my story is helping her deal with her own battle with her child’s life; that it gives her hope. We stay in contact, and it crushes me when the light of hope grows dim when things don’t turn out the way we’d hoped for. I am defeated because there is no consolation that I can come up with that will allay her pain. But–at least we had hope, we didn’t give up and that is better than nothing. These are amazing women and if you are reading this post, you know who you are and that I will forever hold you in my heart.

It is my intention to help and support as many people as I can. I feel it is my responsibility because, at one time or another in our lives, we all need to believe in and have hope for what is deemed impossible. To that end, I have updated my book cover. I am extremely proud that 2 Ivy league universities have welcomed my book into their libraries; that the book won 7 awards and that the picture of Marc and me today not only will give hope, but it also shows that our kids can actually be older than we are. 

As Alexander Pope said in his An Essay on Man, “hope springs eternal’. What I know for sure is that we can’t live without it–come what may. I am grateful because I will continue spreading the word. 

I hope you all have a really good day.


Something for Your Toolbox

Deutsche Übersetzung ist unten.
Something for Your Toolbox @
Our Monday morning thoughts set the tone for the whole week. Be positive, apply yourself, focus, expect the best, and remember:
Unsere Gedanken vom Montagmorgen geben den Ton für die ganze Woche an. Sei positiv, setzte dich ein, konzentriere dich, erwarte das Beste und erinnere dich:
Deine Energie stellt dich vor, bevor du überhaupt sprichst.

From Germany with Love- No Translation Needed

Yesterday I received a care package from my sister and co-blogger, Tracie from Germany.

As I ransacked the box of treasures of the always ahead of the curve European fashions before my daughter could take claim, I pulled out these items.

Let’s translate and keep it simple.

Keep distanced and masked for the sake of yourself and those you love and if you don’t the results could be #?*!

The science is clear- masks save lives.

Wearing A Face Mask Could Save 33,000 Lives In The US In Just 3 Months, According To One Model


Something for Your Toolbox