... the tales of two sisters

Dana lives in Seattle, and Tracie lives in Germany. We are businesswomen, writers and humorists. We write about life, dating, and today's modern women.

It’s always an honor for me to present the awards on behalf of the Golden City Gate, the world’s number one touristic film, print, and multimedia competition at the ITB in Berlin. The ITB is the world’s largest travel trade show. And. I. Love. Travel. What’s so wonderful is that the ITB presents a mega opportunity to learn about countries and traditions from all over the world–all under one great big huge gigantic mammoth roof. Last year due to COVID the event was canceled. But we won’t let that stop us this year. For this year’s event, I will once again be a deciding jury member for this year’s awards–albeit digitally. I’m so looking forward to seeing the submissions and determining how much emotion and creativity they impart–and very importantly, if they’ll leave me with a desire to visit their country. Here’s a clip from the 2019 award presentation. Enjoy–especially at minute 5:22.

Now I must get to work. Can’t wait to see where I’m going!


Es ist immer wieder eine Ehre für mich, die Auszeichnungen im Namen des Golden City Gate, dem weltweit wichtigsten touristischen Film-, Print- und Multimedia-Wettbewerb, auf der ITB in Berlin zu überreichen. Die ITB ist die größte Reisemesse der Welt. Und. Ich. Lieben. Reisen. Das Wunderbare ist, dass die ITB eine mega Gelegenheit bietet, Länder und Traditionen aus aller Welt kennenzulernen – und das alles unter einem großen, gigantischen Mammutdach. Letztes Jahr wurde die Veranstaltung aufgrund von COVID abgesagt. Aber davon lassen wir uns dieses Jahr nicht abhalten. Für die diesjährige Veranstaltung werde ich wieder als entscheidendes Jurymitglied dabei sein – allerdings digital. Ich freue mich sehr darauf, die Einreichungen zu sehen und zu entscheiden, wie viel Emotion und Kreativität sie vermitteln – und ganz wichtig, ob sie bei mir den Wunsch hinterlassen, ihr Land zu besuchen. Hier ist ein Ausschnitt aus der Preisverleihung 2019. Viel Spaß – vor allem bei Minute 5:22.

Jetzt muss ich mich an die Arbeit machen. Kann es kaum erwarten, zu sehen, wohin ich gehe!

One Fish Two Fish Rectify This

Theodor Seuss “Ted” Geisel was an American children’s author, political cartoonist,  and illustrator. 

I think many of us read Dr. Seuss’s books as kids. As a matter of fact, I still have two of them today: The Cat in the Hat Comes Back and One Fish Two Fish Red Fish Blue Fish.

His books are iconic and have been published all over the world. His honors include two Academy Awards, two Emmy Awards, a Peabody Award, the Laura Ingalls Wilder Medal, the Inkpot Award and the Pulitzer Prize.

Well, yesterday, Dr. Seuss Enterprises–the company that is charged with protecting Dr. Seuss‘s legacy,  announced that six Dr. Seuss books will stop being published because of racist and insensitive imagery. 

They are: “If I Ran the Zoo,” “And to Think That I Saw It on Mulberry Street,” “McElligot’s Pool,” “On Beyond Zebra!,” “Scrambled Eggs Super!,” and “The Cat’s Quizzer.” They’ve decided to no longer publish  these books available saying,  “ceasing sales of these books is only part of our commitment to ensure Dr. Seuss Enterprises catalog represents, supports, and influences all children.”  

Good move. It’s 2021. These books should be fun and inclusive for all kids of every color, all straight, gay–I mean, it is simply out of touch and frankly derogatory for  Asian characters to be depicted with slits for eyes and men from Africa who are shirtless, shoeless, and wearing grass skirts, as well as Black people depicted as monkeys. This is why the National Education Association — which runs Read Across America — has distanced itself from Seuss in recent years.

As you can see I still have two of my Dr. Seuss books, I treasure them and I’m certain that the new production of books that will be inclusive of all kids will be their treasures for years to come. 

As you can see I still have two of my Dr. Seuss books and I treasure them and I’m certain that the new production of books that will be inclusive of all kids will be theirs and treasures for years to come as well. 

“This was (is) no time to play.

“This was (is) no time for fun.

This was (is) no time for games. 

There was (is) work to be done.

When we know better, we can do better.

 I wonder if my books are worth anything…


Something for Your Toolbox

He Did it With Love and His legacy Lives On

His work as a pioneering physician and advocate for an African-American presence in medicine continues to be honored by institutions worldwide today.

Dr. Daniel Hale Williams, born in Pennsylvania,  (1856–1931), was the grandson of a slave and the first African-American cardiologist. 

In 1893, he became one of the first physicians to successfully perform open-heart surgery by entering the chest cavity of stabbing victim James Cornish and repairing the pericardium, the sac that surrounds the heart–without the benefits of a blood transfusion or modern surgical procedures. Mr. Cornish went on to live another fifty years after the surgery.

Due to the discrimination of the day, African American citizens were barred from being admitted to hospitals, and Black doctors were refused staff positions. To do something to remedy this, in May 1891, Dr. Williams opened Provident Hospital and Training School for Nurses, the nation’s FIRST hospital with a nursing and intern program that had a racially integrated staff. Today, Provident Hospital, located at 550 E. 51st Street, Chicago, Illinois, is a public hospital and a member of the Cook County Health & Hospitals System (CCHHS.) Amazing, right?

In 1894, Dr. Williams moved to Washington, D.C., where he was appointed the chief surgeon of the Freedmen’s Hospital, which provided care for formerly enslaved African Americans. The facility had fallen into neglect and had a high mortality rate. Dr. Williams worked diligently on restoration, as well as the improvement of surgical procedures, increased specializations, launched ambulance services, and provided opportunities for Black medical professionals, including the establishment of a training school for African-American nurses at the facility. He led the staff here from 1894 to 1898.

In 1895, he co-founded the National Medical Association, a professional organization for Black medical practitioners, as an alternative to the American Medical Association, which didn’t allow African-American membership.

He also became a clinical instructor and demonstrator in anatomy at the Chicago Medical College, where one of his pupils was Charlie Mayo, the future co-founder of the renowned Mayo Clinic.

In 1913 he became a charter member and the only African American doctor in the American College of Surgeons.

As a sign of the esteem of the black medical community, until this day, a “code blue” at the Howard University Hospital–the former Freedman’s Hospital emergency room is called a “Dr. Dan”

Dr. Williams trail blazed the path in the medical field for African Americans and taught the medical world that it doesn’t matter the color of your skin; no one is more talented because of their ethnicity. 

Brilliant, courageous, and determined, his legacy lives on, and we thank him.


“Anything is possible when it’s done in love and everything you can do should be done in love or it will fail.”  Dr. Daniel Hale Williams

Remember that.



Happy Birthday to one of the Greats: Mr. Sidney Poitier

Happy Birthday to one of the Greats: Mr. Sidney Poitier

His birthday is February 20; the day before yesterday. He is 94 years old, and to me, the definition of grace. 

An actor, film director, author, and diplomat, in1964, he was the first black actor to have ever received an Academy award – that golden statue that recognizes excellence in cinematic achievements honoring him for his role in the film, Lilies of the Field. 

As of this writing, he is the oldest living Best Actor Academy Award winner. 

In 1967, he starred in the classic films, To Sir with Love, (we all remember Loulou singing the theme song right?); In the Heat of the Night, music composed by menopausebarbee uncle Quincy Jones; and Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner– all of them masterful message films. Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner is one of the first films of the time to positively depict interracial marriage. 

This is extremely significant as interracial marriage historically had been illegal in most states of the United States and was still illegal in 17 states nearly right up until the film’s release. 

Consider that.

All of these brave and brilliant films dealt with race and race relations and were the vehicle for Mr. Poitier to display his extraordinary talent that spiraled him to the apex of his industry: the top box office star of that year and a matinee idol.

His honorary recognitions are too many to name here, but they include being named by the American Film Institute as among the greatest male stars of classic Hollywood Cinema; an Academy Honorary Award for recognition of his remarkable accomplishments as an artist and as a human being; receiving the title of honorary Knight Commander of the Order of the British Empire by Queen Elizabeth II and the bestowment of the presidential medal of freedom by President Obama. 

A life well lived indeed!

Just thinking about this iconic man makes me smile. He is truly one of the most dignified, refined, gracious, and charming people I’ve ever had the honor of meeting. And so today, the menopausebarbees honor him. A man of integrity. 

Happy Birthday and blessings Mr. Poitier. 

To Sir, with Love…


In recognition of Black History Month, the menopausebarbees are giving a nod to the life and contributions to the entertainment world from Ms. Esther Jones.

Have you ever heard of Esther Jones? Before researching for this post, I hadn’t.

Esther Jones (Baby Esther) was a black child singer and entertainer who lived in Chicago, Illinois. She was a trained dancer who used to perform at nightclubs in Harlem in the 1920s. In her act, Baby Esther would dance, make funny faces, roll her eyes, and interpolated words such as ” Boo-Boo-Boo “, ” Wha-Da-Da “,” Doo-Doo-Doo ” & ” Do-Do-De-Do-Ho-De-Wa-Da-De-Da ,” ” Boo-Did-Do-Doo ,” ” Lo-Di-De-Do ,” and would finish off her routine with a ” De-Do “. At the age of ten, Esther began touring Europe in 1929 and became the highest-paid child artist in the world. Her first appearance was at the Moulin Rouge. In Paris, Esther was known as the “Miniature Josephine Baker”.

Baby Esther was the inspiration for Betty Boop–one of the best-known and popular cartoon characters in the world. Though others–particularly a Helen Kane tried to claim in court that she originated the baby-like scat singing that Esther did–she lost the case.

There can only be one original.

Esther Jones’ singing trademark was “Boo-Boo-Boo and Doo-Doo-Doo” which went on to become an inspiration for Max Fleischer’s cartoon character’s voice of Betty Boop.

And if you didn’t know–now you know! 


Peaceful weekend everybody. Keep in your thoughts and prayers those wracked and suffering from the devastating storms–especially in Texas.


Menopausebarbees and Black History Celebrate Auntie M

Each year as we celebrate February and Black History month, we Menopausebarbees are honored to shine light on some of the most succulent fruits from our family tree.  Today, in Flashback Friday, meet our Auntie Mardra Jay who in 1965 became the first black flight attendant Alaska Airlines would hire.  As my cousin, Hope, her daughter recently and so poignantly shared, Auntie M opened doors that left it wide open for others to follow.

As a former ballerina and the first retired African American flight attendant after 22 years of service for Alaska Airlines, Margie still has the grace as when she was on toe point and the people skills of her years of service.

Tracie and I took the opportunity to ask Auntie Margie what being an original menopausebarbee means to her…

I studied ballet for 16 years at Cornish and that is my passion. I think that is why I am so drawn to Pilates, which I now do  daily. At 76, I believe you should embrace your age and be proud about it and that God has blessed you with your health.

In 1964, I was working for the Washington Natural Gas company and affirmative action was busy during this time. At the urging of a friend flying for Northwest, I went to Alaska and was hired. I started flying for Alaska Airlines at age 21 and I was the first African American woman to be hired by Alaska. My first flight was my first time being airborne. My sister, your mother, Theresa, stood crying as the plane took off. A lady comforted her and asked when I would return and Theresa wailed, ‘tonight’.

On June 26, 1986, flight number 82 was my final run. I was astounded as I came off the jet way and all my co-workers lined the stream with the various outfits we had worn for the previous 22 years. Everything from the super mini’s, to the Gay 90’s with the long red velvet skirts, the tall fur Russian hats and the pencil skirts and pill box hats. It was my surprise retirement and all my friends and family were in attendance.

I like people and over the years, I have met some of the most fascinating and interesting individuals. I have always loved the excitement of flying.

On a flight in the early 80’s from Ketichan to Seattle, I met a passenger, named Christopher Jay who became my soul mate. We have three children who are all prospering and five beautiful grandchildren.

Through the years, I have been blessed to travel to India, Russia, Europe, Asia, The Holy Land and the Middle East. I have come to find
If you view life as if you are looking through the eyes of God, it is hard to have a negative view.
Each morning as I awake, I say this prayer, ‘Help me walk through this day as if I am looking through Your eyes.’

Tracie and I can attest, Auntie Margie walks the talk! She is as one of her favorite sayings… All the things that love can do!

Flashback Friday- Dana dressed in Auntie M’s uniform when Alaska Air flew to Russia circa 1970s.

Black History Month Celebrates Maya Angelou

 As an influential poet, civil rights activist, actress, film director, and educator she changed the world.

Imagine that.

She grew up during segregation and used her work to empower and give voice to the African American community. Her memoir, “I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings” changed the literary world and opened doors for African American authors and women. She looked towards the positive all the while encouraging us to face our trials and tribulations head-on. And–she never gave up.

In 2009 she wrote: “My life has been long, and believing that life loves the liver of it, I have dared to try many things …You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them … Do not complain. Make every effort to change things you do not like … Be certain that you do not die without having done something wonderful for humanity.”

My kinda girl.

The Best Mirror is an Old Friend!

This month, we celebrate LOVE.  I mean it to my core when I say the love of my friends is one of my most treasured assets.  When I revisited this post, I realize that I had a great example.

This is the story of a friendship that has spanned 65 years.

Happy Valentine’s Month!
This month celebrate LOVE
And we ALL LOVE a LOVE Story…

So today I want to share about a friendship that has spanned 65 years.
This unlikely twosome met at Seattle’s famed nightclub, The Mardi Gras located in Seattle on 19th and Madison circa 1955.
One was a bartender and the other was offered a job by Morgan, the proprietor, as a waitress.
The bartender coached the novice waitress to pour a sip of coffee in a glass and toast the patrons.
Sure enough the tip paid off, and when the waitress came home her apron was flowing full of tips! The bartender was from Alabama.
The waitress, a Seattleite soon caught the drummer’s eye and married.
The waitress and drummer had three daughters and the bartender became their surrogate Aunt
The bartender was present for every family occasion. She made her famous egg-nog at the holidays. She stayed late on Christmas eve to help spread presents under the tree. Each New Year
they would delight in her Chitterlings and
Southern greens. Her scrumptious pot of Gumbo was a testament to her southern roots. She baked her nieces their favorite pies on each of their birthdays- peach cobbler or black berry. These two have lived through presidents, Eisenhower, Kennedy, Johnson,Nixon, Ford, Carter, Reagan, Bush, Clinton, another Bush, Obama, and Trump. They enjoyed reading and sharing notes on novels from Sidney Sheldon or Danielle Steel.They watched shows from Dynasty to Empire. They bantered over politics, news and entertainment gossip. They enjoyed late night cackles and cocktails. Author Edna Buchanan said that friends are family we choose, and she must have had these two in mind. Through the marrying, carrying and burying side by side, never a fight or friction. My mama and Auntie Christine- a 65 year journey of LOVE.  Although Auntie Christine now sits in a nursing home in Alabama,  the love and memories last forever.

. “The best mirror is an old friend.”

― George Herbert

Monday Motivation in Something for Your Toolbox

**Montag Motivation: Verbraucht Euere Energie nicht, um Euch Sorgen zu machen. Nutze deine Energie, um zu erschaffen, zu vertrauen und vor allem, um zu glauben.