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Dana lives in Seattle, and Tracie lives in Germany. We are businesswomen, writers and humorists. We write about life, dating, and today's modern women.

A Change is Gonna Come… But The Fight Must Go On

This past week marked what would have been Sam Cooke’s 90th birthday.  I have long been a fan of the treasured music and that angelic voice  left us.  For years, my playlist has included his sweet offerings of Cupid, Bring it on Home, and Another Saturday Night.  However,  after watching Netflix’s Documentary, The Two Killings of Sam Cooke, I was  struck by the timeless power of A Change is Gonna Come.  It was and is such a poignant offering that is just as present today as it was in 1964.

That sad musing was also reflected in the Netflix film, A Night in Miami. The relationship between Sam Cooke, Cassius Clay (Muhammad Ali), Jim Brown, and Malcom X explore the responsibility of being high profiled successful black men during the civil rights movement.  They lived daily in fear for their lives fighting  to seek an end to the Jim Crowe Laws that allowed them to perform for white audiences while black fans were relegated to the balcony or not allowed attendance at all.

A Change is Gonna Come…

Jim Brown was named the greatest professional football player ever, winning an NFL Championship, leading the league in rushing and shattering records.

Muhmmad Ali, nicknamed The Greatest, was a professional boxer, activist and entertainer and is still celebrated as one of the most celebrated figures of the 20th Century.

Malcom X, was a minister and human rights activist during the Civil Rights Movement and was best known as a vocal spokesman for the Nation of Islam.

Sam Cooke was a brilliant entrepreneur, influential as a composer and producer and commonly known as the King of Soul for his vocal chords.

After watching the film and reflecting on their mission, message and sacrifices-including the ultimate sacrifice, their own lives, I share this quote by Dr. Martin L King, “In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.”

As Sam Cooke sang,  A Change is Gonna Come…

But like Ali in the rink,  The fight must go on…

This Is What Racism Sounds Like in the Banking Industry – The New York Times (


The Menopausebarbees in Memphis visiting the hotel where Dr. Martin L. King was killed.


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Day before yesterday we lost a King. An icon. A talk show pioneer. Legend. Larry King (born Lawrence Harvey Zeiger) is probably best known for hosting Larry King Live on CNN from 1985 to 2010. His iconic career spanned more than six decades in radio, television and digital media, interviewing Presidents to everyman. We menopausebarbees had the GREAT PLEASURE of meeting Mr. King, and can say that he was truly, honest to goodness truly one of the the NICEST people we’ve ever met. That voice! He will be missed by fans around the world. And we say thank you Mr. King, for everything. You are now no doubt making interviews in Heaven…
From Wikipedia: During his career, he did more than 60,000 interviews.CNN’s Larry King Live became “the longest-running television show hosted by the same person, on the same network and in the same time slot”, and was recognized for it by the Guinness Book of World Records. He retired in 2010 after taping 6,000 episodes of the show.
Vorgestern haben wir einen König verloren. Eine Ikone. Talkshow-Pionier. Legende. Larry King (geboren als Lawrence Harvey Zeiger) ist wahrscheinlich am besten als Gastgeber von Larry King Live auf CNN von 1985 bis 2010 bekannt. Seine ikonische Karriere erstreckte sich über mehr als sechs Jahrzehnte im Radio, im Fernsehen und in den digitalen Medien, er interviewte Präsidenten bis hin zum Jedermann. Wir menopausebarbees hatten das GROSSE VERGNÜGEN, Mr. King zu treffen, und können sagen, dass er wirklich, ehrlich gesagt, einer der NICESTEN Menschen war, die wir je getroffen haben. Diese Stimme! Er wird von Fans auf der ganzen Welt vermisst werden. Und wir sagen Danke, Mr. King, für alles. Du machst jetzt zweifellos Interviews im Himmel…
Aus Wikipedia: Während seiner Karriere gab er mehr als 60.000 Interviews.CNN’s Larry King Live wurde “die am längsten laufende Fernsehshow, die von der gleichen Person, auf dem gleichen Netzwerk und im gleichen Zeitfenster moderiert wurde”, und wurde dafür vom Guinness Buch der Rekorde anerkannt. Er ging 2010 in den Ruhestand, nachdem er 6.000 Episoden der Show aufgenommen hatte.[
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Thoughts From Abroad

Today in the Kölner Stadt Anzeiger newspaper, a few of us gave our thoughts about the 2020 election and the 46th President, Joe Biden.

I shared that, “President Biden’s message of unity which was reflected in the (magical) presentation from poet laureate Amanda Gorman and LAST but NOT LEAST, to see a woman of color accepting the position as Vice President was nearly overwhelming for me. The crazy is gone. Dignity and decency have returned. It is a good day for America and the world.

Comedian John Doyle said, in part: “Joe Biden is basically a good person. I’m not sure he is in the position to twitter and to insult other politicians. Now the adults are back in power.”

Quaide Williams, in part: “Joe Biden showed with all the flags (taking the place of people) that he takes Corona seriously. Trump would have made it a super spreader event.  Superstars showed up for the event. Trump only had Ted Nugent. America is back.” A little bit of Schadenfreude there, but sometimes the truth hurts.

Benjamin Becker, in part: “I’m looking positively towards the future.”

And leaving it on that note, I dare say that pretty everyone around the globe is looking towards the same.

Happy, happy weekend everybody!


Heute haben einige von uns im Kölner Stadt Anzeiger unsere Gedanken über die Wahl 2020 und den 46. Präsidenten Joe Biden geäußert.

Ich teilte mit, dass “Präsident Bidens Botschaft der Einheit, die sich in der (magischen) Präsentation von Poet Laureate Amanda Gorman widerspiegelte und LAST but NOT LEAST, eine Frau of Color zu sehen, die das Amt des Vizepräsidenten annimmt, war für mich fast überwältigend. Der Wahnsinn ist weg. Würde und Anstand sind zurückgekehrt. Es ist ein guter Tag für Amerika und die Welt.

Der Komiker John Doyle sagte unter anderem: “Joe Biden ist im Grunde ein guter Mensch. Ich bin nicht sicher, ob er in der Lage ist, zu twittern und andere Politiker zu beleidigen. Jetzt sind die Erwachsenen wieder an der Macht.”

Quaide Williams, zum Teil: “Joe Biden hat mit den ganzen Fahnen (die den Platz der Menschen einnehmen) gezeigt, dass er Corona ernst nimmt. Trump hätte es zu einem Super-Spreader-Event gemacht.  Superstars sind zu der Veranstaltung erschienen. Trump hatte nur Ted Nugent. Amerika ist zurück.” Ein kleines bisschen Schadenfreude dabei, aber manchmal tut die Wahrheit weh.

Benjamin Becker, unter anderem: “Ich blicke positiv in die Zukunft.”

Und wage ich zu behaupten, dass so ziemlich jeder rund um den Globus in die gleiche Richtung blickt.

Frohes, frohes Wochenende allerseits!




Something for Your Toolbox

EN translation below
Es sind wirklich harte Zeiten, aber wir müssen uns daran erinnern, auf uns selbst und aufeinander aufzupassen, denn es kommen bessere Tage! Glaubt da dran! Hier sind ein paar Tipps.
These are really tough times, but we must remember to take care of ourselves and each other because better days are coming! Believe it! Here are a few scientifically proven tips to get us to move toward positivity and hopefully happiness.
Laugh regularly;pracice thankfulness(one of my favorites); help others (another fave); spend some time outdoors in nature; take breaks; do some kind of physical activity; meditate daily; reward your small successes; spend time with your family (Zoom, Facetime, etc.); and finally, work towards your goals
Hang in there everybody…

P is For…

P if For…

P is for Patti Savoy as she conceived of this post and wrote it.

P is for Peace as today we celebrate and honor Dr. Martin Luther King.


P is for Pissed as we all should be enraged by what happened at our Capitol.



P is for Pizza to support and show love to our troops.



P is  is for Please read below and consider making a donation.


Patti Savoy:

With the inauguration only a few days away, I’d be fooling you (along with myself), if I said I wasn’t worried about what could happen before, during or after Wednesday, January 20th. This worry comes with a slew of good reasons. I’d also add that I wasn’t sure if I wanted to speak about this on the Menopausebarbees platform, as I don’t want this blog to be misconstrued as “political” or siding with a particular party. This is definitely not either of those.


On Wednesday, January 6th, we all witnessed an evil attack on The People’s House, our Capitol Building. We watched with our own eyes with feelings of disbelief, fear, anger and sadness. Along with the majority of you, I was horrified to see the images of an out of control mob yelling hateful chants, threatening our Vice President and other House members and staff. It was a sea of thousands of people storming our beautiful building that represents the very essence of America. It looked like something that happens in other countries- NOT the United States of America. There were terrorists invading, trespassing, but worse with armed with weapons, zip tie handcuffs, confederate flags, offensive and racist symbols and clothing (Auschwitz Camp, 6MWE- 6 million wasn’t enough) and we even saw an image a noose and heard chants, “Hang Mike Pence?” over and over. We saw windows being smashed, writing on the walls, glass for miles, thrashed offices with floors white with paper and we even had folks take property from the House. We saw violence on our Capitol Police and the media crews. I will NEVER forget the anguished screams and moans of the young police officer being crushed between a door, pleading for help. Or seeing the fear of the black police officer running for his life up the Capitol stairs, but still had the wherewithal to redirect away from the members and staff.


We lost 5 human lives that day, including a Capitol Police officer who went to his job that day to protect and serve. And now, we have thousands of National Guard at the Capitol to protect during the inauguration and from who? Americans? So, these men and women of our military are armed and may have to use their weapons on other Americans? I’m not sure what the answer is with the unrest in our country and it’s definitely a time where I am feeling little control.


I reached out to my tribe to try and wrap my head around it all. We asked ourselves what gesture can we take to feel like we are all in this together and we are there with all those men and women, serving and protecting us. We wanted to show support of the United States, it’s democracy and to our women and men that have volunteered to serve in the United States military. Here’s how we will be taking part and if it inspires you, we’d love for you to consider doing the same or if you have something else you are doing, please share in the comments.

(Special thanks to Pamela Eakes for sharing this site)

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Reverend Martin Luther King

 In recognition, celebration and an indescribable indebtedness to this brilliant, eloquent American hero, the menopausebarbees are sharing a message from Dr. King that you may not be aware of. Please listen. Keep his dream alive. #Goodtrouble #aintnogivinupandnogivinout

Fun and Games

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 Ok, everybody, it’s Wednesday, also known as hump day in America and I think we could all use a little break and put our minds someplace else for a minute. How about we have a little fun and games?


Ok, Leute, es ist Mittwoch, auch bekannt als Buckeltag in Amerika und ich denke, wir könnten alle eine kleine Pause gebrauchen und unsere Gedanken für eine Minute woanders hinstecken. Wie wäre es, wenn wir ein wenig Spaß und Spiel haben? There is Trouble in Paradise for one of these couples. Which is a happy family and which is splitting up? Why?


Für eines dieser Paare gibt es “Trouble in Paradise”. Welche ist eine glückliche Familie und welche trennt sich? Warum?


Which Queen Elizabeth is a fake? Why?


Welche Queen Elizabeth ist eine Fälschung? Warum?


And finally, who can name this American actor and film director who had a 60-year career in which he twice won the Academy Award for Best Actor? ***********************************************************

Und schließlich, wer kann diesen amerikanischen Schauspieler und Filmregisseur nennen, der eine 60-jährige Karriere hatte, in der er zweimal den Academy Award als bester Schauspieler gewann?


Coming To America-Tutu Style


I needed a laugh this week, however, there wasn’t much happening to bring a smile to my face with our country’s unrest and Covid-19 cases still on the rise.  As all of us Seattle Seahawk fans watched our football team get kicked out of the 1st round of the Wild Card playoffs, our anticipated joy of another Super Bowl trip turned to yet another disappointment in an already dismal quarantine year.  So, as I packed up my #12 Blue jersey, I recalled a post that indeed makes me laugh…  and if this story doesn’t make you laugh, you might want to check your pulse and your funny bone!!!!

Posted January 14, 2014

Mama Tutu (our Mom) is constantly on the roar about being the brunt of our blogs, stories, and tales, but truly, some of our most hilarious moments have involved our Mom, so I apologized to her in advance, but this one I had to share..

Last Friday, I received a call from my sweet girlfriend, Deon Brown, wife of Seattle Seahawk’s Wide Receiver’s coach, Kippy Brown. Deon called with an invitation for us to join her for the final practice at the Seahawk training facility prior to the Championship game against the New Orleans Saints. Deon insisted Tracie and I bring along Mama Tutu, as everyone affectionately calls her, after all- who doesn’t love Mama? Deon warned that although the facility was indoors, it was unheated and extremely cold, and that we would be out in the elements for over an hour. “Please, please, please”, Deon pleaded. “Make sure you all dress warm, and especially Tutu!

Now, I have had my share of frigid climates this year (Iceland Blog 11/18/2013 Every Venture Should Be an Adventure) and I just returned from skiing in Sun Valley (10 Things I want My Children and All of You to Know 1/1/2014), so I was prepared as I pulled out my long johns and began to layer. By the time Tracie, Mama, and I assembled, we had taken Deon at her word and all of us adorned coats and woolens that looked like we had robbed the Zoo that morning!

My choice was a suede and fox fur trimmed old favorite, which is probably ten years old, that I bought when my dear friend, Jeri Rice had her designer boutique in the Fairmont Hotel. I reasoned some things don’t go out of style. Tracie wore a beautiful red sheared mink, a not so oldie, but very goodie and looking at it, we agreed, the coat would not go out of style for a long time. But Mama had taken it to another level as she jumped in our SUV with her custom made French Rabbit full length fur with Italian leather bindings sewn between the pelts. Her favorite furrier, who is now deceased, Gordon, had hand sewn the pelts well over 40 years ago, and let’s just say, this gem of a coat is truly a GrandMenopausebarbee! Mama topped the ensemble off with a rabbit puffed fur skull cap.

I’ve learned never to question Mama’s knowledge for fashion. In fact, I rarely get dressed without seeking her approval. She just has that “it” factor for putting it all together. Remember, we are talking about an 81 year old, who was the former 1st 1950 Seafair Queen, model extraordinaire and fashionista who worked the runway like nobody’s business! But the rabbit coat with it’s full 70’s swagger was NOT EVER COMING BACK IN STYLE!!!! I nicely suggested as I warmed up the vehicle, that it might be overkill, and maybe Mama would want to run back inside and grab another choice. But Mama wouldn’t have it… She snuggled in the backseat and replied, “Deon said it was gonna be C-O-L-D. Now let’s get moving!”

We arrived on the practice field and we all couldn’t help but notice the young players peering over at us. As practice concluded, All American, Notre Dame graduate, Wide Receiver, Golden Tate came over and greeted us. He looked at Mama, smiled and said, “You look like you starred in the movie Coming to America!”

Go ahead an laugh it was a Golden moment and even Mama laughed!

#12’s Forever

It’s a Blue Day

LAST WEEK was a ghoulish week to say the least.


Today is a new day.

The sky is blue.

The sea is blue.

The House is blue.

The Senate is blue due to the fact that Democrats won both seats  Georgia. With the partisan balance in the Senate being tied for the first time since 2001, Vice President-elect Harris’s tie-breaking vote will give Democrats control of the Senate after the new administration takes office. And it is the first time EVER that Georgia has elected a black senator–Reverend Rafael Warnock AND the first time the previous red state has elected a Jewish person to represent the state of Georgia, namely Jon Ossoff.

Crestfallen since the deadly violation of the U.S. Capital last Wednesday, I haven’t really had the umpfh to raise the roof, see the blue and jubilate this groundbreaking grand slam.

THE major player behind all of this has written eight romance novels, a best-selling spy novel; by the age of 30 she was an entrepreneurial millionaire and by 35, was the mayor of Atlanta, Georgia. Her efforts, pure efforts, on voter registration and turnout in the state also made Joe Biden the first Democratic presidential candidate to win Georgia in almost three decades. Mr. President-elect told her: “Nobody, nobody in America has done more for the right to vote. You are changing Georgia. You have changed America.” 

It doesn’t really get too much more badass than that.

During her time as the Democratic leader of the Georgia house of representatives, she helped register thousands of voters with her voter registration nonprofit New Georgia Project and Fair Fight which has combated voter suppression efforts in the state and also trains people on protecting the vote in battleground states– such as voter roll purging. She has also worked to increase minority voter participation, tripling the Latinx, Asian American and Pacific Islander turn out in 2018. Alone she registered more than 200,000 voters and over the last six years she and her team have helped educate and register register more than 800,000

Black voter turn out in Georgia during the 2020 election likely broke records.

She wants the right to vote for ALL Americans. “Why would we want to limit our access to democracy?” she asks. She wants to ensure that every “underserved community is seen, that we can recover from this pandemic by fixing the structural inequities that have ravaged communities of color and poor communities in our country.”

Because she is giving everything she’s got for liberty and justice for all in America, Stacey Abrams is downright bedazzling in the menopausebarbee Monday Spotlight. Chapeau Ms. Abrams.

I see blue skies…

What would you say to that little person in you?

What would you say to that little person in you?

As a Menopausebarbee, I have lived through war and challenging times.   Vietnam, The Invasion of Panama, Iraq, and Isis to name a few. As the mother of a new born, I witnessed the attacks of 9-11 and wondered what kind of world I was bringing my daughter into.  We are not immune and we cannot ignore  the global march taking place today to support Tigray. Fighting is still going on in several parts of Ethiopia’s northern Tigray region and almost 2.3 million people, or nearly half of the population, need aid, a U.N. report said.

And here at home…Yesterday’s assault on our U.S. Capitol is so barbaric that I cannot even fully comprehend. And this now comes as no surprise, “To all of those who have asked, I will not be going to the Inauguration on January 20th,” Trump tweeted, making formal what many had long assumed: that Trump would eschew the traditional step of personally demonstrating the peaceful hand-off of power to President-elect Joe Biden. He’ll be the first outgoing president to skip his replacement’s inauguration in more than 150 years.  Reminds me of the quote, “There’s no I in Team, but there’s a ME in there.”

We are all suffering right now, and it’s imperative we come together. Yesterday was the deadliest day of the Corona Virus Pandemic.  As we are paying witness to the most outrageous Presidential transfer of power where Congress after being stormed by rioters, left 5 dead.  Innocent black men and women are being shot and killed by police, even while asleep in the peace of their own homes or having their life choked away in broad daylight over $20. We are living with a systemic homeless crisis.  Mental health and addiction and abuse are wreaking havoc on our lives.  Businesses are fighting for their survival as people await a stimulus check to make ends meet.  Food lines and donations are at an all time high as people are literally starving physically and mentally.

It all hurts deep.

In answer to my question, what would you say to that little person in you? My mom shared what her brother told her this past Christmas, and today, I hope it’s a gift for you too.

“Multiply your joy, subtract your sorrow, add to your tomorrow.”

So, multiply your joy by doing one thing this weekend for someone in need. Subtract your sorrow by not dwelling on your own lack of or loss and remember there is always someone worse off. And pray, may tomorrow be better for us all.