menopausebarbees
... the tales of two sisters

Dana lives in Seattle, and Tracie lives in Germany. We are businesswomen, writers and humorists. We write about life, dating, and today's modern women.

Autumn

AUTUMN…

The onset of the beautiful transitional time of year. We think about colors, cranberries, and cornucopia. And of course Halloween, harvesting, holidays; feasts, family, and the fireplace. If you are at this moment blessed with health and are not living in a war, famine, or flood zone, you can dare to delight in anticipation for autumn to settle around––oh wait! 

What?? 

Scandal?? 

What happens when that fireside chat out of the blue takes a left turn?? I’m particularly referring here to the scandals surrounding two women last week: actress Mia Long whose longtime partner Ime Okoda has been suspended from his job as head coach of the Boston Celtics for the entire 2022-2023 basketball season due to his infidelity and pregnant waiting on baby number 3 Victoria’s Secret model Behati Prinsloo, whose husband singer Adam Levine for the band Maroon 5, was recently exposed for sending flirtatious direct messages to several women and allegedly having a year-long affair with one of them.

This is all quite unfortunate and just goes to show you that being beautiful and about 6$ will get you an oat milk cappuccino––but will not spare you from anything in life–including suffering and heartache.  Both Nia and Behati are beautiful and successful women in their fields; they are, I would imagine, also women who are no doubt at this very moment staring down the long, hard road to healing, controlling their rage, and trying to figure out how to deal with the transition not only in the falling autumn leaves but also in their hearts. My question is: will things ever be the “way they were” between these couples? Experts say it’s possible for them to go on to have a happy relationship after infidelity, provided they’re willing to put in the work. 

Work?? 

Where’s the fun, excitement, longing, and desire in that? Well, if man can walk on the moon, I guess all things are possible.

Anyway, my curious mind wants to know: could you, would you take back your mate if they cheated on you? Would your mind be strong enough to not lead you down that dark, dank road of painful images and thoughts? How would you stop yourself from overthinking? Could you trust again? Would the betrayal diminish or downright destroy your physical desire? Looking into the eyes, who will be the first to blink? 

Like leaves breaking from tree branches and settling on the ground, perhaps one has to mentally break away from the affair to transcend the pain in order to be able to settle peacefully, with both feet firmly planted on the ground…