menopausebarbees
... the tales of two sisters

Dana lives in Seattle, and Tracie lives in Germany. We are businesswomen, writers and humorists. We write about life, dating, and today's modern women.

Words to Live By

Along the onset of my journey in motherhood, trying to keep my son alive in a foreign country where I didn’t speak the language and knew no one, two refrains rang in my head and in my heart. Constantly. They were familiar to me as I had grown up with them. Thankfully. I’d like to share them here with you. I am convinced that one or the other or both for that matter will help you too one day.

From my beauty queen mother, the bedrock of our family: “Let go and let God,” she’d always say when I was worried, befuddled or afraid.

And from my father, a temperamental, courageous, successful businessman: “Ain’t no givin’ up and no givin’ out,” he’d always say when I would complain of being tired–and he convinced me that I wasn’t even as a nine year old girl when he would awake me shortly after dawn on a Saturday morning with the news that I had to get up and go to work cleaning an apartment or yard at one of our family held apartment rentals.

I never imagined the day would come when these mantras would sustain my spirit when I faced life and death adversity. The doctors in Germany told me when my son was born that, “he was born incompatible with nature, that he could not survive, and would probably die any minute.”

Well, as the pictures in this IN October 2017 magazine article reveal, this is my son today. He’ll be thirty-three years old this month. It’s been quite a journey indeed, far from an easy one. And today I remember all those times when I spent hours around the clock in the hospital willing my son to live, beyond the point of raw fear and exhaustion and I would hear my parents’ voices.

And I say, Mama and daddy, you were right.Thank you.

Our story, Incompatible with Nature–A Mother’s Story is also now available in German: Einen Herzschlag entfernt. Die Geschichte einer Mutter, die für das Leben ihres Sohnes kämpfe. (Translation: A Heartbeat away-the story of a mother who fought for her son’s life.)

Read it and get inspired!

Here’s to Life!

*Amazon link: https://www.amazon.com/Incompatible-Nature-Tracie-Frank-Mayer/dp/1537201298

*Amazon German link: https://www.amazon.de/gp/aw/d/3775158057

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