menopausebarbees
... the tales of two sisters

Dana lives in Seattle, and Tracie lives in Germany. We are businesswomen, writers and humorists. We write about life, dating, and today's modern women.

Ride or Die..

This morning, I received the below article from one of my “sisters.”  As I read it, I realized how fortunate I am that I truly have “family” I consider my Ride or Die.  This slang was originally a biker term meaning if you couldn’t ride you’d rather die. It has now changed to mean anyone (wife, boyfriend, best friend), that you will “ride” ANY problems out with them or “die” trying.

When I reflect on the ups and downs of my personal journey – marriage, divorce, child rearing, death, engagement, medical concerns, business ebbs and flows, and all the daily routine of life; I want my Ride or Dies to know- I am grateful!  Because of YOU, I AM and I WILL- continue to grow, live, love, laugh, and cry without abandon or judgement.  Let’s continue to ride.

 

… A Ride or Die?   Shared this morning … xoxox

My best friend’s birthday was this past Sunday, and it got me thinking about everything we’ve gone through. We’ve been besties for more than 20 years, and let me tell you, nothing has changed. We live completely different lives now on the opposite ends of the country, but whether it’s two weeks or two months between our facetimes, our conversation flows the same.

It still surprises people that we lasted this long — we all know that as we get older, relationships change. Priorities shift. Self-care and family come first. Time becomes more precious. You learn to choose which relationships to invest in, which relationships to keep casual, and which to bid goodbye.

What has held us together is the ability to equally show up for each other. While there have been times when one of us has relied more on the other, we both understand that our relationship requires give and take. We might not physically be there for every birthday or girl’s night out, but when shit hits the fan, we drop everything for each other.

That’s true friendship. So here’s my question to you: do you have true friends? Your ride-or-dies? Take the time to look at your friends and evaluate who the keepers are. It might be time to bid goodbye to an energy-zapping relationship, because constantly giving isn’t balanced and it definitely isn’t friendship. On the other hand, if you’ve noticed someone has pulled away from you, think about whether you’ve given as much as you’ve taken in the relationship.

Real friends are hard to find, but when you do find them, hold them tight. Perhaps you too will find yourself sipping wine on your couch, facetiming your best friend of 20 years.

And to my Ride or Dies… If you need me- I’ll get there anyway I can, and we will enjoy the ride!