menopausebarbees
... the tales of two sisters

Dana lives in Seattle, and Tracie lives in Germany. We are businesswomen, writers and humorists. We write about life, dating, and today's modern women.

Mothers and Daughters in the Menopausebarbee Monday Spotlight

Dani gave us a wonderful last week full of insight inspired by her and Mama’s Oprah’s Live Your Best Life conference. Thank you my sister!

Today I’m hosting Mothers and Daughters in the Menopausebarbee Monday Spotlight.

Dana and I thank God everyday for Mama.

Everyday.

When I’m pondering over a decision, I ask myself what would Mama do?

Whatever she would do, I know it would be the right thing. She’s a wise mama bear who I’m sure would have preferred to give me a cheat sheet with all the answers to spare me the heartaches, disappointments and scary monsters we encounter in life, but Mama knew that this is what the gift of life is all about. She trusted enough in herself and in me that she had given me the wherewithal to let me liberate myself into the world; to literally spread my wings and fly. . . all the way to Germany. Though my move saddened her deeply, never once did she stand in my way.

As a child, I was never aware of the fact that I needed and depended on her to do the right thing because she just always did. What a blessing I didn’t even know I had! It’s just in her DNA. I like to call her a woman’s woman: she was never afraid to get down in the trenches working with Daddy, yet the scent of her perfume always suited the seasons.

I honor her.

I have been fortunate in my life to have made friends and acquaintance with people from all over the world. It’s a wonderful thing to see and I see it every single time: when these ‘children’ from such far off lands such as Ethiopia, Ghana, Spain, Italy, Nigeria and the Ivory Coast to name just a few, speak of their mothers, something comes over them. I can only describe it as a certain kind of reverence.

I was inspired to write today’s post because of two people.

They love each other.

They work together.

They play together.

They take time for each other.

They are tuned into one another.

They encourage each other.

They laugh and cry together.

They share meals and intimacies together.

For the past several years they’ve starred in a children’s play written by the elder that’s held in a castle here in Germany. Last week they performed their original song, ‘Maybe it’s You’ together before 1000 women at the United Nations Forum, a conference on human rights for women and girls, in Geneva Switzerland.

Say hello to Robin Meloy Goldsby (Menopausebarbees October 31, 2011 and May 19, 2014) and her 18 year old daughter Julia.

How many mother daughter duos do you see performing their own composition at the United Nations? Not only are they talented, they are both genuinely two of the nicest women I’ve ever met. And it’s just beautiful to see the love, respect and admiration they have for each other. Clearly this mama bear has guided her daughter with care. Watching them together, one is witness to the power of influence mothers and daughters have on each other.

I asked Robin what advice she would give Julia as she prepares for her big crossover into womanhood.

She said, “The funny thing is, I feel like I’m learning way more from her than she is from me—Julia is one of those kids with a very wise and very old soul. She has shown me how to hold on to the magic in everyday life, to laugh when I can, to cry if I want to, and to remember to be kind to myself…”

That Julia is becoming such a fine young woman is a testament to the loving mother daughter bond that this mama bear has nurtured for the past 18 years and I tip my hat to that.

Having just recently graduated from high school, Julia has decided to in her words, “take a gap year off and join FAWCO, (the Federaion of American Women’s Clubs Overseas), a women’s organisation with 73 member clubs spanning 6 continents with over 15000 members. FAWCO aids charitable, scientific and educational programs and supports the rights of women and children throughout the world.

As a FAWCO youth ambassador she’ll be visiting clubs around the globe while working and volunteering in charity programs.

Her journey started in Shanghai. Before her work is done she will have gone to to Hamburg, Paris. Morocco, Qatar, NYC, and Rome.

You can follow her journeys and see her amazing blogs at

http://youtu.be/kpCSbGWJmrY Jul’s Journey.

And here is the video of their performance at the U.N.

How beautiful to watch and share in your daughter’s blooming into the woman she was meant to be. If I had a daughter, I think it would be the highest of compliments and my greatest achievement if my Mini Me would want to emulate me, if she would like me as a person and respect whatever it is that I do.

In the words of Shakespeare, “Though she be but little, she is fierce.”

. . . Thank you Mama.

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