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I have known and loved individuals who were narcissistic, bi-polar, depressed, obsessive compulsive, drug addicts, alcoholics and on the spectrum. I have come to understand you cannot love the disorders away. I have joined counseling sessions, read volumes of books, medicated, meditated, and educated. One book I read years ago, I believe was entitled, When Helping You is Hurting Me. The hardest part is walking away from individuals who refuse to accept or try to seek help and continue to sink you in their abyss of misery. My father, a brilliant man, who I loved greater than any man ever, suffered from extreme high and lows, and he believed that mental illness was a sign of weakness. He didn’t believe in counseling or taking meds. He was from a generation that believed people truly only used 10% of their brains. So, in his mind, it was mind over matter as he soldiered on. I found that the people surrounding these personalities get accustomed to drama, and the unacceptable becomes the norm. So define your boundaries, and while it’s paramount to take care of those with mental illness, take care of yourself first!
You are NOT alone.
Here are some data points you can use to speak to the scope of mental health:
As I look at this data, it’s not surprising that mental illness has affected us all.
Anxiety, Mood Disorders, Psychotic Disorders, Eating Disorders, Impulse Control and Addiction Disorders, Personality Disorders, Obsessive Compulsive Disorders, Post Traumatic Stress Disorders, Somatic Symptoms, and Tic Disorders are a common list.
Many of these disorders are enhanced while coping with the stress of the Pandemic. Teenage suicide is on the rise and this is why those who grow up in toxic environments are up to 12 times more likely to experience addiction, depression and to try to end their lives.
Break the cycle. Help starts with reaching out.