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... the tales of two sisters

Dana lives in Seattle, and Tracie lives in Germany. We are businesswomen, writers and humorists. We write about life, dating, and today's modern women.

Living Your Best Life…

Now that we have officially turned back time with Daylight Savings, my internal clock is still askew. I don’t wake to an alarm, so I found myself in a reflective mood, in the wee hours before sunrise as I snuggled under the covers. I read the news and caught up on social media. Friends battling cancer, divorce, loss of family, and loved ones, work hardships, and troubled times for so many. As I was scrolling through my Facebook, this post, Living Your Best Life, appeared in my “On This Day”, timeline, and I’m re-posting as I believe we all need spiritual awakenings, especially during these trying times.

Since I wrote this, my children’s father passed away suddenly and unexpectedly in March. We never know what tomorrow brings, so take a moment and forgive, and as my sister shared our Mama’s favorite line, “Let Go and Let God.” My sister, author, Tracie Mayer, also shares this unwavering faith as she has taken the life altering, harrowing birth of my nephew, who has survived an extremely rare heart condition and penned her journey in Incompatible with Nature. This is the story of endurance and love www.traciemayer.com Remember… “If you are going through Hell, Keep on Going!” See post for other Tools to help you live your best life!

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The only thing I can liken the experience to was church. It was a Sunday, a day of reflection and rest and for those so inclined church. I felt as if I was in church this past weekend. I’m not talking the Roman Catholic ritual which my grandmother, RIP attended every Sunday at St. James Cathedral. I’m talking the kind of church which resonates in your soul, from the music to the message and you can’t contain yourself in your seat kinda church. This past weekend, I had that spiritual awakening and opportunity for growth along with an estimated 14,000 plus eager attendees at the Oprah Live Your Best Life Weekend. Today, and this week, I want to reflect on the powerful take-a ways for those not in attendance and offer a platform of sharing for those who found it, as I did, life changing.
When I escorted my mother into the pumped up arena with a D.J. playing all my favorite Old School tunes from Stevie Wonder to Whitney Houston, I marveled at the energy of the crowd standing and dancing. I marveled more at the fact that these 14,000 women and (a few good men), from all walks of life, extreme wealth (I personally know some of you) to the ones that could barely afford the cost of the ticket (know some of you as well), had all converged and we all wanted the same thing… The answer to LIVING OUR BEST LIFE. The panel which was a team of Oprah’s handpicked “Trailblazers” all resonated the same truth and that is, each of us born has special gifts, talents and a purpose, and we are co-creating our lives by every choice we make. Right now, we particularly as women are poised in a position that our mothers, grandmothers and the generations before never had the opportunity to even conceive of such a life. Oprah shared how as a poor child being raised in Mississippi by her grandmother, she was told to pay attention to how to boil water as they had no indoor plumbing to wash clothes and hang them out to dry. Her grandmother looked at a 5 year old Oprah and said, “Honey, I hope when you grow up, you too get good white folks to work for like I have.” Oprah knew better than to voice her thoughts, but inherently knew that was not to be her calling. The audience audibly laughed as Oprah shared her grandmother would never believe or conceive that Oprah had indeed found “good” white folks, but in fact, they work for her. It was in those moments of hilarity and irony that I. as well as all the participants reflected on our own upbringing.
I looked at my own mother seated next to me when Oprah shared this story. My maternal grandmother was a life-long domestic. She was a stunningly beautiful woman who raised my mom and her successful siblings on meager means along with her carpenter husband. Based on the time and her circumstance, she didn’t have the opportunity that we as women have today to ask the question, WHAT IS MY CALLING AND WHAT IS MY PURPOSE?
I learned for those of us fortunate enough to be ALIVE at this present time, our PURPOSE is our spirit seeking ways to express oneself. When you don’t know the answer, get still, get silent, listen to your gut until you hear the answer. When the personality comes to serve the energy of the soul, that is authentic empowerment.
This week, I will continue to share highlights and notes from the experience, however, today I wish to leave you with this.
We all have daily trials, bouts of hardships and mountains to climb. Often, people tend to look at my life and think I live on Easy Street. I have a successful business, healthy, beautiful smart children, an amazing mother and business partner, I have hobbies, I have a bounty of friends I more than love, I travel, I give back to the community, I am a member of amazing organizations, serve as a board member on charities near and dear to my heart, and I get to express myself daily in this blog with my best friend and sister. God has indeed been generous and I am grateful. As Oprah said, I’m living a life my grandparents could never imagine. But I have had my share of heart break, sadness, and pain where as one of the Trailblazers, Elizabeth Gilbert (author of Eat, Pray, Love) describes leaving you on the bathroom floor at 2 AM doing the Ugly Cry. Been there… done that! I had a divorce after 22 years I endured several years of care in health decline and then physical loss of my mentor, my father after years of alcohol abuse. I have endured the loss of dear family members, Uncles and Aunts, a step daughter, cousins, financial trials of rebuilding a business that was on the edge of bankruptcy after my parents War of the Roses Divorce and loneliness and fear looking at an unknown future. It all came together at the O Weekend when we built this diagram:
Success Failure
Good Bad
Right Wrong
Victory Defeat
When you look at the two columns- it is the one on the right that has transformed us the most and shaped who we are.
So with that, I choose to embrace the pain, as I know it will help me with my gain.
The best is yet to come!
Stay tuned…..