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... the tales of two sisters

Dana lives in Seattle, and Tracie lives in Germany. We are businesswomen, writers and humorists. We write about life, dating, and today's modern women.

In the End… What Matters Most

I think we can all agree, these are indeed some of the most challenging times we have all lived through. LIVE that is the operative word here. As I reflect on living and the inconvenient interruption of our lives, I would be remiss not to acknowledge a man whose life ended 3 years ago this very day. This man who LIVED life to the fullest and impacted the lives of those who he loved and loved him in return. Yes, friends, it’s hard to believe that 3 years ago, we gathered in an overflowing reception at the Seattle Tennis Club remembering Steve Looney. He had a zest for life, love for sports, God given athletic talents, generous heart, was a doting father, amazing gambling handicapper, with a soulful style, business acumen, a loyal friend, vodka loving (amongst most spirits) enthusiast who left an indelible mark on all lucky enough to know him. As I look at friends dying now especially in light of Covid-19, I wonder if the deceased really recognize the impact they had on those they encounter daily. And we are left to ask, ‘What will our legacy be?’ I keep a sign in my house which reads, “In the end, what matters most is how well did you live, how well did you love and how well did you let go?” Although we divorced, Steve and I were married 24 years, and we shared the gift of parenthood and countless wonderful memories. We remained family and talked daily, celebrating holidays and milestones together, so I feel confident to say, his life modeled my sign. A few weeks ago, before the Corona mandated lockdown, I joined a few of my tennis besties for an after match glass of vino at McGilvra’s, one of Steve’s favorite “watering holes.” My son, Brett phoned and when he realized I was there, he said, you want to see something really special? Ask for Courtney, the manager, and have her show you the Steve Looney bottle. Shortly after, our server appeared with a bottle of Grand Mariner, the last bottle Steve drank from before he went in for neck surgery and never came out of the hospital. With tears in her eyes, she shared a message from Courtney of how the staff adored and missed him. So, yes it’s true… People may forget what you do or what you say, but they will never forget how you make them feel.

Steve, you made everyone just feel good. And I can drink to that! RIP – you are missed.

For information on Donations to The Steve Looney Scholarship Fund for deserving athletes at Seattle University, contact Brettfranklooney@gmail.com