Think about the phrase- The Truth Shall Set you Free. This is such a powerful quote from the biblical times that transcends and resonates over centuries.
I was sharing some insights with friends over the weekend, and one friend shared that her feelings had really been hurt when someone confronted her with character flaws. This person criticized my friend to her core- from her parenting, to her lack of motivation to pursue a new job opportunity. When this person finished berating my friend, he smiled and said, I share this because I love you and I know the truth hurts.
I looked at my friend, completely deflated and feeling worthless, and I shared this quote:
Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth. Marcus Aurelius
Our conversation made me recall 25 years ago attending a Pursuit of Excellence Personal Growth series and each day the caption at the front of the room Tell The Truth appeared in larger letters.
Initially I took issue with this concept, having mere strangers tell me things about my being that I did not hold as my personal truth. The facilitator had us do an exercise where we had to tell others in our subdivided groups what we surmised about them. One lady shared that she felt I dressed flamboyantly (Tracie had moved to Germany and was sending me fabulous fashion forward attire) because I needed to draw attention to myself. I actually loved my orange leggins with the punched holes, matching orange pumps and Flash Dance style large sweatshirt draped off one shoulder. I concentrated on her Birkenstocks with tube socks hugging her ankles as she continued to express I should be more comfortable and not show boat. Now, I am known to have a tart tongue, but I smiled and thought to myself, I wouldn’t take the trash out in her ensemble. The next day, I appeared at the seminar in another Tracie find. I learned at an early age, someone else s opinion of me does not define who I am.
I have also learned as a Menopausebarbee that the real truth which is important, is my truth.
Life is good when understanding simple measures-
-Give unconditionally – The cup always returns more full
-Love more- it’s a boomerang effect- just like a smile, it’s contagious
-Do random acts of kindness- compliment someone – you never know what cross someone is bearing
-Treat others as you would want in return – The Karma police always gets paid
If you live in these truths- you are indeed