menopausebarbees
... the tales of two sisters

Dana lives in Seattle, and Tracie lives in Germany. We are businesswomen, writers and humorists. We write about life, dating, and today's modern women.

A Dawg in the House! Woof Woof

Every day we make decisions…
There are the simple choices such as what to eat, what to wear, and what to do with our spare time.
As we mature, more challenging life defining choices are made such as when to marry, have children and buy a home. When choices are committed, we are responsible for the would’ve, could’ve and should’ves of life.

As a menopausebarbee, I recall my mother saying “If only I knew then, what I know now.” I didn’t grasp the meaning of hindsight being 20/20 vision until I became an adult. However, I respect my parents allotting us the freedom to make our own paths in life. Mom was bedridden for two weeks when my sister and co-blogger Tracie announced she was moving to Germany. That was over 25 years ago, and we all survived… well, barely. That was an early lesson that you raise your kids to the best of your ability and then you let their own instincts and intuition guide them.

I liken choosing a college to facing the ultimate Y in the road and the first major independent decision for many young adults.There are so many factors to consider. From academics, sports, social aspects, proximity to home, class size, prestige, long-term network, and life goals.

As my son, Brett has deliberated over what college to attend, our family agreed not to interfere with his decision making process. It was hard not to champion our own feelings and desires. Aunt Margie’s weekly email asking did Brett decide to Grandma’s input that L.A. is only a short plane ride away were kept quiet.

Many of my friends have met their spouses in college, lived in the city and made livelihoods where they have attended school. It brings about that age old question, was it fate or luck in the decision making process?

As a member of the Global Young Leader’s Conference, Brett’s travels have taken him through China, Europe and to WA DC for the Presidential Inauguration of Barack Obama. Brett has an adventurous spirit, and quite frankly, I was surprised that he chose only West Coast schools.

After being accepted to Pepperdine, LMU, SU, and U of W, the schools all offered various attractive attributes. The campus of Pepperdine was gorgeous in Malibu, California overlooking the ocean. LMU offered small classes, close to LA and wearing shorts to class would be appealing. After spending a year at Seattle U, Brett really appreciated the Jesuit education and small class sizes. But in the long run, U of W, with it’s rich history in sports and academics won.

So,as we prepare for the next phase in Brett’s education and life, I can exhale and say… Go Dawgs! I bow down to Washington and I’m confident you made a great choice!

Brett and Mom at a Husky Football game September 2011